confirmation of original thought

(woohoo! another paper done.....tick that box off.......)

so this morning, on my way to church, i was pondering my "quality of friends" issue.....this is something that has plagued me for the last while whilst i have been dealing with my own little hell of death and disappointment.....but this morning i had an epiphany:
maybe people just don't know how to be friends to each other.....maybe they're afraid....maybe this world of psychotherapists has made ordinary people feel inadequate to support their peers in times of need.....maybe this is why people are afraid of anything that is unsuperficial and potentially negative and emotional....perhaps that is why people must pay people to lend an ear....

now, don't get me wrong....i think there is a very valid place in our social context for counselling.....but on the other hand, one should be able to vent their frustrations and find support in their so-called friends........i've been starting to fear that the ties i cut years ago "in my best interests" in fact cut me from the last few people who knew how to stand by me in thick and thin........it was hard to realize that, although i thought myself in a much better place socially than ever before, that this was a falsehood disguised by a few years of relative good times........

well, this was passing through my head on my morning's half hour drive and i was thinking of blogging it here......then the sermon happened......rod wilson spoke and started by describing this very phenomenon......it was bizarre to have my thoughts (that i had not yet shared with anyone) regurgitated to me from the pulpit........people are afraid to be friends........

well, suck it up people! sometimes all someone needs is to be heard, to vent, to emote and get perspective.......on their terms................

go on.......be a friend

question

why did i wake up this morning?

a little song

oh where, o where
have the real friends gone?
oh where, oh where
can they be?